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<img src="https://www.becalewis.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/WhoDoWeFollow-1024x536.jpg" alt="" width="1024" height="536" class="aligncenter size-large wp-image-3837" / Leadership lessons from Harry the squirrel. We name our squirrels. Harry Peanut is a young gray squirrel with a bounce in her step and a very distinctive way of approaching and eating the peanuts we leave out for her. But most importantly, she is a wise [...]

On Monday, March 23, 2020, my satellite clock went crazy. Or I did. Because we didn’t agree on the date. I thought that it was March 23, but a glance at the clock on my desk told me it was March 24. I believed that to be true for an entire day until I looked [...]

It’s an interesting term: Sheltering in place. What place? That is the question. Where in our thinking are we sheltering? What are we believing? What are we accepting as truth? Are we allowing ourselves to fall into this current pandemic of fear? Because that’s what this is. Fear attempting to force us into separation. Shelter [...]

For years, while sitting in a tiny church in Venice, CA, I stared at this quote on the wall. “Divine Love always has met and always will meet every human need.“— Mary Baker Eddy. I did not truly understand what that meant. But more than anything I wanted to. It was a promise, and I [...]

Lurking in the shadows of our lives is a fear—and a resistance—to showing up. And yet, since we are here on earth, we agreed to show up.
Not just as a person that takes up space, or lives life as something to endure, but showing up to the something that you, and only you, are here to do.

With a date like 2020, there is no way to not go to the symbol of seeing clearly. Maybe this year could begin a whole decade of seeing clearly. As a human race, we certainly need clear sight to heal separations between people and nations, and to repair the damage we have done to our [...]

As much as we might wish it, nothing stays the same. It never did. And now, everything changes so quickly, and often, it may feel impossible to keep up both physically and emotionally. Often we pretend it isn’t happening, thinking that if change doesn’t affect us directly, perhaps we can sit it out. We may [...]

You’ve seen them everywhere. Storage units. Places to store our stuff. The stuff we aren’t using. The stuff we are afraid to throw away. The stuff we have no idea what to do with, so we keep it. We pay for it to sit there. Perhaps never to be seen again. But Life Storage is [...]

(Mom and dad right after they met in 1945. They were married a few weeks later.) If my dad were still with us, he would be ninety-nine today, October 8, 2019. Many things have changed since my father passed away ten years ago. One thing that has changed is I have written many more books [...]

Standing in the middle of cornstalks over eight feet high, I was feeling quite content. It was the end of the corn’s growing season, and I was removing all the cornstalks that had already produced corn. I wanted the remaining stalks to have more light, air, and nutrients so they could complete what they started. [...]

Discouragement is something everyone faces from time to time. In my last post, I talked about the need to shift, or pivot, or change our minds. But something that often gets in the way of doing that is the feeling of discouragement. So, as promised, here are some ways that have helped me, and my [...]

We’ve passed the halfway point in our Say Yes year. It’s time to look at how that’s going. A crucial thing that we are learning is that in order to say yes to what we want, we have to say no to things we don’t want. That’s not too hard. But sometimes we have to [...]

July is the perfect time to explore Love. It’s what the month of July is all about. At least if you follow the teaching of the Seneca, and Twyla Nitsch. Yellow is July’s color, and it’s all about Love and Devotion. But what kind of Love and devotion? Here are some questions and answers to [...]

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what success means. To me. Because that’s what’s important, isn’t it? What we each personally think of as success. Not what someone else says it is. We are the ones living in our lives, not them. But it’s so easy to forget with the multitude of ways offered [...]

I have a bad habit. I keep adding things for me to do into my day. They are all good things. Or at least it feels that way to me. I have added classes, writing more books, marketing said books, recording and editing the audio of my books, and now I want to start a [...]

Thinking is overrated. If you know me well, you might be laughing. I think all the time. I’m curious. I’m a planner. I think about how things will happen, what needs to be said, how to put my classes together. I think about how the universe works. But I don’t want to be stuck in [...]

Sometimes I take my computer into our living room to write in our comfy chairs that look out onto our front lawn. The change of scenery sometimes helps my imagination kick in, or my resistance to let go, as I attempt to finish a chapter in a book or write the next blog. Sometimes I [...]

What if there was a delivery to your home every morning of everything you have ever desired. Every morning the doorbell rang, the delivery was made, but you never answered the door. Or, you opened it by a little sliver, stuck your hand out, and grabbed the closest item and shut the door again. Inside [...]

Writing in coffee shops is an interesting experience. Even though I am not there to listen in on conversations, in fact, I try to block them out, sometimes it can’t be helped. One Friday morning, I didn’t arrive early enough to get my usual by-myself-seat, so I ended up on the back bench waiting for [...]

Are you stuck in a story? Well, who isn’t? Sometimes we don’t care. If the story works well enough, let it be. But what happens when the story isn’t working for us anymore? Then we have a choice. Rewrite the story completely, or do just enough to be more comfortable. Sometimes we want to rewrite [...]

As we make no and yes lists, there is something that usually makes it onto the wrong list. On our no list, we may say, no to making mistakes. This is a mistake. Ha. See what I did there? Instead, we should put this on our yes list, yes to being okay with making mistakes. [...]

Nine months ago I bought a reclining bike off the Let Go app and started in on cycling thirty minutes a day. I was inspired by my daughter who has been doing this for years. If she could do it, so could I. I’ve enjoyed it. It gives me the perfect excuse to read a [...]

Sometimes to figure out what we want to say yes to, we have to first learn to say no. We can all look back on our lives and remember times when we wish we would’ve made different choices. When perhaps we should have said no, instead of yes, or yes instead of no. After a [...]

Throughout the years I have talked about the jail we put ourselves in because of our beliefs and perceptions. So when someone ticks me off because of what they are doing or saying—and lord only knows we have enough of that going on—and my righteous anger and upset wants to kick in and judge what [...]